Out of Trauma, Into Truth: Rediscovering Self After Unconscious Living
Imagine standing on a beach, looking out at the ocean. The waves are powerful and unpredictable, but there’s a certain beauty in their rhythm. This, in many ways, reflects the journey of rediscovering yourself after trauma. It’s both exhilarating and uncertain. Suddenly, the world looks different, and you’re left re-learning who you are—your values, boundaries, likes, and dislikes. It’s a transformation that can be as refreshing as it is challenging.
The process of stepping into your truth can feel unfamiliar at first, but with time, things begin to make sense. Below are six reminders to hold onto as you navigate this journey of self re-discovery:
1. Give Yourself Grace
When you’re reintroducing yourself to the world after trauma, there will inevitably be ups and downs. Some days, you’ll feel clear and grounded; other days, uncertain and perhaps even a little lost. That’s okay. There’s no need to rush the process—this is all part of the journey. Each moment is an opportunity to learn more about yourself in a conscious way and to observe the intricacies of choice.
2. You Are Unique
It’s easy to feel like you have to fit into someone else’s mold, especially when you’re in the process of rediscovering yourself. But here’s the truth: your path is uniquely yours. No one else has lived your story or felt what you’ve felt. Embrace your individuality. It’s not about conforming to what others expect but about honoring your authentic self. The world needs your unique perspective.
3. The Right People Will Support You
You may not always agree with those around you, and that’s okay. The right people will create the space for you to express your true self, even if that means disagreeing sometimes. They’ll support you by holding space for you. If people-pleasing has been part of your past, remember: true peace comes from honoring yourself, not trying to fall in line with the expectations of others.
4. Be Patient With Yourself
This journey takes time, and it’s not something to rush. Rediscovering yourself, especially after trauma, can feel frustrating at times, and there will likely be moments where you feel like you’re not making progress fast enough. However, trust me when I say that every step is something to appreciate and the life you’re building is worth every single moment.
5. Shift from “I Have To” to “I Get To”
At first, it can feel like a heavy burden to relearn who you are and to process everything you’ve been through. But what if you shifted your perspective? Instead of thinking, “I have to start over,” try thinking, “I get to start fresh. I get to create a life that truly reflects who I am.” This small shift can transform your journey from something burdensome into a powerful experience of beauty.
6. The Pieces WILL Connect
It may feel like your life is full of scattered pieces right now, but trust that in time, they’ll begin to come together. You might not see the full picture just yet, but with each choice you make, you’re building the foundation for a life that aligns with your true self. Day by day, step by step, those pieces will connect, and you’ll rediscover your confidence, but this time through conscious and active choice, rather than unconscious programming.
As you embark on this journey, it’s important to remember that healing and rediscovery are not just mental or emotional processes—they are deeply physical as well. The mind and the body are interconnected and honoring both is key to true transformation. Treat your body with care, nourish it, and you’ll find that it will guide you toward the truth of who you are.
As Mark Groves wisely says, “When the veil gets lifted, you may not like what you see, but you will feel free.” It’s a freedom that doesn’t always feel good, but it’s liberating, and it’s real. There’s a beauty in the truth, even when it’s raw, and eventually everything will begin to provide clarity.
Trust that this process is unfolding for your highest good. You are capable of rediscovering yourself and creating a life that reflects your true power.
Remember: you’re not alone in this journey and you’ve got everything you need within you to build the life you love.
Peace & Love,
~ Austen 🫶🏼
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